Comments on: Sex on the First Date http://www.hammer86blog.com/2008/12/14/sex-on-the-first-date/ We are men in 2010 Mon, 05 Sep 2011 06:58:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Honey http://www.hammer86blog.com/2008/12/14/sex-on-the-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-147 Honey Thu, 18 Dec 2008 19:39:24 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=135#comment-147 I'm confused, Hammer, is the list above a list of things you DO want or a list of things you DON'T want? It's not clear at all. That being said, now that I have been monogamous for almost three years, if I became single again I think I would have to wait longer before sleeping for a guy for the first time for a couple of reasons: 1. It's SO MUCH better when there's a connection, that I don't think it would be great at all if it was just physical. In fact, I think it would kinda suck. 2. I would not feel comfortable sleeping with someone unless I knew when their last STD panel was, whether they'd had partners since that last workup, and whether they'd used a condom with those partners. That's not sexy first date talk - it's kind of a bummer. So I think you have to tease a little and build the sexual tension until you know each other well enough to have that conversation without killing the buzz. That said, the BF and I had sex on our first date, but neither of us was expecting it (though we were both obviously open to the possibility). I’m confused, Hammer, is the list above a list of things you DO want or a list of things you DON’T want? It’s not clear at all.

That being said, now that I have been monogamous for almost three years, if I became single again I think I would have to wait longer before sleeping for a guy for the first time for a couple of reasons:

1. It’s SO MUCH better when there’s a connection, that I don’t think it would be great at all if it was just physical. In fact, I think it would kinda suck.

2. I would not feel comfortable sleeping with someone unless I knew when their last STD panel was, whether they’d had partners since that last workup, and whether they’d used a condom with those partners. That’s not sexy first date talk – it’s kind of a bummer. So I think you have to tease a little and build the sexual tension until you know each other well enough to have that conversation without killing the buzz.

That said, the BF and I had sex on our first date, but neither of us was expecting it (though we were both obviously open to the possibility).

]]> By: The Dateable Dork http://www.hammer86blog.com/2008/12/14/sex-on-the-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-143 The Dateable Dork Wed, 17 Dec 2008 03:47:05 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=135#comment-143 Hahaha!!! Hammer, my dear, you know I could never corrupt such a young stud muffin like yourself. I would have to make Demi Moore my new BFF or something. : ) Hahaha!!! Hammer, my dear, you know I could never corrupt such a young stud muffin like yourself. I would have to make Demi Moore my new BFF or something. : )

]]> By: Hammer http://www.hammer86blog.com/2008/12/14/sex-on-the-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-144 Hammer Tue, 16 Dec 2008 06:21:15 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=135#comment-144 No I mean, I get that, but this is why I assume the role of the tease playing hard to get so that you are chasing me all the way into the funk shop. But then again, I'm not saying that I will never call a girl again who I don't sleep with on the first date, I am just trying to clear up fallacies and encourage women to be more open to the possibility. Not that it really matters, I mean, I get plenty of first date tail regardless, I just hate stupid rules. In an unrelated note, when am I getting together with you DD? I want to do things to you that are illegal in 17 states that you're not going to want me to do but will absolutely enjoy. Plus, it will be good blog publicity :). No I mean, I get that, but this is why I assume the role of the tease playing hard to get so that you are chasing me all the way into the funk shop. But then again, I’m not saying that I will never call a girl again who I don’t sleep with on the first date, I am just trying to clear up fallacies and encourage women to be more open to the possibility. Not that it really matters, I mean, I get plenty of first date tail regardless, I just hate stupid rules.

In an unrelated note, when am I getting together with you DD? I want to do things to you that are illegal in 17 states that you’re not going to want me to do but will absolutely enjoy. Plus, it will be good blog publicity :) .

]]> By: The Dateable Dork http://www.hammer86blog.com/2008/12/14/sex-on-the-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-145 The Dateable Dork Tue, 16 Dec 2008 03:37:02 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=135#comment-145 Hammer - I agree with some of your points and disagree with others. But instead of getting into a philosophical debate, I'll simply say this: I don't usually sleep with men on the first date because I like being a tease and drawing out the anticipation. It's fun. It's cute. It's playful. I like to kiss him goodnight and leave him wanting more. And yes, I'll be masturbating when I get home. : ) Hammer – I agree with some of your points and disagree with others. But instead of getting into a philosophical debate, I’ll simply say this: I don’t usually sleep with men on the first date because I like being a tease and drawing out the anticipation. It’s fun. It’s cute. It’s playful. I like to kiss him goodnight and leave him wanting more. And yes, I’ll be masturbating when I get home. : )

]]> By: Lance http://www.hammer86blog.com/2008/12/14/sex-on-the-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-146 Lance Tue, 16 Dec 2008 03:26:38 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=135#comment-146 I read the article, watched the video, her logic breaks down. She says that once the sex starts, the getting to know you stops. Not true at all, and I'm don't really know where that comes from. Her stuff is hopelessly out of date. There's an underlying assumption that's unsaid in her stuff, and that is that the guys are weakling (beta) horn dogs and the girls shouldn't give up their power by sleeping with them so fast. Really, what she's talking about is power, not sex. If the guy is a weakling, I agree, she shouldn't sleep with him on the first date, or any date for that matter. If the guy is ALPHA, though, there's nothing wrong with getting it on on the first date. Alpha guys prove themselves to be sex worthy...further, they're the guys who can have sex on the first date and will stick around if the connection is a good one. I read the article, watched the video, her logic breaks down. She says that once the sex starts, the getting to know you stops. Not true at all, and I’m don’t really know where that comes from. Her stuff is hopelessly out of date.

There’s an underlying assumption that’s unsaid in her stuff, and that is that the guys are weakling (beta) horn dogs and the girls shouldn’t give up their power by sleeping with them so fast. Really, what she’s talking about is power, not sex. If the guy is a weakling, I agree, she shouldn’t sleep with him on the first date, or any date for that matter. If the guy is ALPHA, though, there’s nothing wrong with getting it on on the first date. Alpha guys prove themselves to be sex worthy…further, they’re the guys who can have sex on the first date and will stick around if the connection is a good one.

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