Comments on: Rian Update – Open Relationships http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/03/02/rian-update-open-relationships/ We are men in 2010 Mon, 05 Sep 2011 06:58:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Honey http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/03/02/rian-update-open-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-171 Honey Thu, 05 Mar 2009 23:08:16 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=164#comment-171 What if she dates other people and finds someone she prefers to you who is willing to commit and breaks up with you? You should be ready for that, too. What if she dates other people and finds someone she prefers to you who is willing to commit and breaks up with you? You should be ready for that, too.

]]> By: Hammer http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/03/02/rian-update-open-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-170 Hammer Mon, 02 Mar 2009 21:07:59 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=164#comment-170 Yea it will be interesting man. I think on his blog just yesterday Entropy mentioned something about his relationship being pretty much don't ask don't tell, but I am also pretty sure that his girlfriend isn't hooking up with other guys, so it's more for her sake. I've read before that Doc's girlfriend only hooks up with other girls, which is something I would not have a problem with, although I think Rian is mostly past her lesbian phase. I actually wouldn't be surprised if Rian doesn't sleep with other guys very much. She's a good girl and it would be very difficult for a guy to seduce her same night, and we're still going to be spending 3-4 nights a week together so she's probably not going to be going on too many 3rd dates. That said, you're totally right that I need to be ready for that. It's interesting because while I do get feelings of jealousy, I have become good at not expressing it, and since our relationship has been so volatile (including a stint of her getting back with an ex and me sleeping around from roughly halloween to thanksgiving), I have sort of grown numb to those feelings of jealousy with her. Yea it will be interesting man. I think on his blog just yesterday Entropy mentioned something about his relationship being pretty much don’t ask don’t tell, but I am also pretty sure that his girlfriend isn’t hooking up with other guys, so it’s more for her sake. I’ve read before that Doc’s girlfriend only hooks up with other girls, which is something I would not have a problem with, although I think Rian is mostly past her lesbian phase.

I actually wouldn’t be surprised if Rian doesn’t sleep with other guys very much. She’s a good girl and it would be very difficult for a guy to seduce her same night, and we’re still going to be spending 3-4 nights a week together so she’s probably not going to be going on too many 3rd dates. That said, you’re totally right that I need to be ready for that.

It’s interesting because while I do get feelings of jealousy, I have become good at not expressing it, and since our relationship has been so volatile (including a stint of her getting back with an ex and me sleeping around from roughly halloween to thanksgiving), I have sort of grown numb to those feelings of jealousy with her.

]]> By: Infinity http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/03/02/rian-update-open-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-169 Infinity Mon, 02 Mar 2009 20:44:30 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=164#comment-169 Let me just say, good luck sir. Open relationships are tough but very possible. El Topo's 1:1 will be good for you regardless and you are right about Entropy and Doc. Those guys handle their relationships VERY well. And well, if it's something you think you must do then you better be ready for the WHOLE thing, including Rian sleeping with other guys. There are two ways you can go about it. You can either do the, "don't ask, don't tell," or you can do the "tell all." As hard as it may be, I would prefer the latter. I think Entropy would agree with me there. But all in all, have fun, man. It's possible to create a loving relationship though all of what you are doing. Trial and error will get you there. Let me just say, good luck sir. Open relationships are tough but very possible. El Topo’s 1:1 will be good for you regardless and you are right about Entropy and Doc. Those guys handle their relationships VERY well.

And well, if it’s something you think you must do then you better be ready for the WHOLE thing, including Rian sleeping with other guys.

There are two ways you can go about it. You can either do the, “don’t ask, don’t tell,” or you can do the “tell all.” As hard as it may be, I would prefer the latter. I think Entropy would agree with me there.

But all in all, have fun, man. It’s possible to create a loving relationship though all of what you are doing. Trial and error will get you there.

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