Comments on: How Do You Get Her to Fuck Off?

By: searchingwithin

searchingwithin — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 15:17:57 +0000

Honey took the words right out of my mouth. You haven’t ignored her at all, and anyone that states they feel nothing, would not even wonder whether or not they are in the clear after a week and a half, because it doesn’t matter.

By: dougjnn

dougjnn — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 00:07:00 +0000

Are you sure you really want to get rid of her, as opposed to putting her off, due to her flaking. All that you did was good. But… if she does try to contact you again, maybe have a sit down.

It seems she was likely flaking due to jealousy over the open relationship thing. You’re feeling it too of course.

Maybe you two could establish that you’ve each got to treat the other as emotionally primary, and really there for each other, and not flaking, while pursing outside sex, and make the other feel that way or it isn’t going to work. Given that you both care about each other.

I’ve done an open relationship or three. That’s how they worked, while they did.

By: Infinity

Infinity — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 04:19:36 +0000

I have to agree with Benedict here. Apathy drives women nuts! But anyway, you need to cut off ALL contact with her. If she blows up your phone or your email, there are filters, restraining orders and blacklists that can take care of that.

Do what you have to do to move on, but ONLY if you truly are ready. I know how you have felt about her so it’s ok if there is a little bit of hesitance. But at this point, you do it and you do it for good.

By: Benedict M. Smith

Benedict M. Smith — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 20:04:52 +0000

“It’s cool, when you flaked on me on Friday, something really strange happened. I felt nothing.”
I learned awhile back, the HARSHEST weapon against a woman is apathy. NOthing bothers them more than not being able to affect a man. Emotional control is their trump card. they learn to use it with impunity from a young age (remember the gossip whores in high school?)….let not a woman affect you, and she will be driven insane.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 18:47:32 +0000

I second Honey. The only way to ignore her is cutting off ALL contact, not waiting five hours to text her back. If you completely stop responding to her calls, texts, emails, etc, and she still tries getting in touch you after a couple of weeks? Then you legitimately need that restraining order.

By: Hammer

Hammer — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 17:01:09 +0000

Maybe true. Deleting the number is really a last ditch effort that I’m not anywhere near resorting to yet, but maybe I didn’t ignore her hard enough. We’ll see how that goes.

By: Honey

Honey — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 16:35:32 +0000

It is pretty simple to get someone out of your life. Block their e-mail and delete their phone number from your phone. I don’t know if cell phones can block specific numbers but you could certainly change yours and not give her the new one. And why would you encourage her to follow you on Twitter?

Ignoring WORKS. You just haven’t done it, since ignoring her permanently means ignoring her permanently. You’re contacting her again, “trying different strategies” because really you don’t want to cut contact at all and you won’t admit it to yourself.