Comments on: Twitter Wars! Calling vs. Texting http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/04/26/twitter-wars-calling-vs-texting/ We are men in 2010 Mon, 05 Sep 2011 06:58:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Zen http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/04/26/twitter-wars-calling-vs-texting/comment-page-1/#comment-210 Zen Tue, 05 May 2009 22:09:47 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=186#comment-210 I don't get this at all. I hate talking on the phone, I wish more guys would ask me out via text. I don’t get this at all. I hate talking on the phone, I wish more guys would ask me out via text.

]]> By: Hammer http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/04/26/twitter-wars-calling-vs-texting/comment-page-1/#comment-209 Hammer Mon, 27 Apr 2009 20:39:46 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=186#comment-209 Everyone has different sub-personalities, or maybe you'll call them moods, in which they are more likely to do certain things. You're not going to go skinny dipping on a whim every time you are near the beach at night, but you've probably done it at one time or another. That's what sexual framing is all about. It's about establishing the parameters in her mind that will put her in an adventurous and liberated mood so she will want to go there sooner. Bottom line is, I'm no pilgrim. I'm not going to settle for someone and then wait out her sexual comfort. If she has that many sexual hang-ups and sex is that big a step for her, then she's really not the girl for me. It relates a lot to my post about why I won't date virgins: let her be in another relationship where the guy will put up with that stuff and liberate her and she can gain sexual experience, then maybe she'll be ready to date me. A mentality that I live by, and I think that all men should, is that dating me is like playing Big League Ball; someone else can bring you up through the minors, but when you get to me, I expect you to be ready. I don't expect you to necessarily come in as a phenom or all star, but you should at least have hot prospect potential. Everyone has different sub-personalities, or maybe you’ll call them moods, in which they are more likely to do certain things. You’re not going to go skinny dipping on a whim every time you are near the beach at night, but you’ve probably done it at one time or another.

That’s what sexual framing is all about. It’s about establishing the parameters in her mind that will put her in an adventurous and liberated mood so she will want to go there sooner.

Bottom line is, I’m no pilgrim. I’m not going to settle for someone and then wait out her sexual comfort. If she has that many sexual hang-ups and sex is that big a step for her, then she’s really not the girl for me. It relates a lot to my post about why I won’t date virgins: let her be in another relationship where the guy will put up with that stuff and liberate her and she can gain sexual experience, then maybe she’ll be ready to date me.

A mentality that I live by, and I think that all men should, is that dating me is like playing Big League Ball; someone else can bring you up through the minors, but when you get to me, I expect you to be ready. I don’t expect you to necessarily come in as a phenom or all star, but you should at least have hot prospect potential.

]]> By: Honey http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/04/26/twitter-wars-calling-vs-texting/comment-page-1/#comment-208 Honey Mon, 27 Apr 2009 20:17:12 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=186#comment-208 What if she doesn't want to sleep with you until she knows you're going to be around for more than the short-term? For a lot of women, sex doesn't get really good (and the girl doesn't get really adventurous) until there's a strong emotional attachment. I mean, the BF and I slept together on our first date so it's not necessarily how I work, but if he and I ever broke up I don't think I could ever do things that quickly again. The idea makes my skin crawl - it's SO MUCH better when you love the person. What if she doesn’t want to sleep with you until she knows you’re going to be around for more than the short-term? For a lot of women, sex doesn’t get really good (and the girl doesn’t get really adventurous) until there’s a strong emotional attachment.

I mean, the BF and I slept together on our first date so it’s not necessarily how I work, but if he and I ever broke up I don’t think I could ever do things that quickly again. The idea makes my skin crawl – it’s SO MUCH better when you love the person.

]]> By: Hammer http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/04/26/twitter-wars-calling-vs-texting/comment-page-1/#comment-207 Hammer Mon, 27 Apr 2009 20:06:10 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=186#comment-207 I'm continually assessing whether I would consider being with them long term from the very beginning. It's not about tricking someone into sleeping with me so much as it's making her feel alright with acting on the desire to want to sleep with me. There's a lot of anti-slut social programming to overcome. To your question, before you sleep with a girl, you're dealing with her representative, so while I can rule a woman out at any time as a potential long term mate, I will never seriously consider committing to her until after I have slept with her a few times. Additionally, I have a lot of sexual deal breakers, so this is another reason to not let myself get too emotionally attached before I know the sex is good. I’m continually assessing whether I would consider being with them long term from the very beginning. It’s not about tricking someone into sleeping with me so much as it’s making her feel alright with acting on the desire to want to sleep with me. There’s a lot of anti-slut social programming to overcome.

To your question, before you sleep with a girl, you’re dealing with her representative, so while I can rule a woman out at any time as a potential long term mate, I will never seriously consider committing to her until after I have slept with her a few times. Additionally, I have a lot of sexual deal breakers, so this is another reason to not let myself get too emotionally attached before I know the sex is good.

]]> By: Honey http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/04/26/twitter-wars-calling-vs-texting/comment-page-1/#comment-206 Honey Mon, 27 Apr 2009 19:11:00 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=186#comment-206 I don't think I'd have anything against a guy who sent me a text, although the BF is the only person I've ever dated who texted me and we were monogamous from our very first date so it's not like there was ever anything casual or game-y about it. My question is, at what point do you stop trying to trick girls into sleeping with you as soon as possible and genuinely assess whether they're someone you could be with long-term? I don’t think I’d have anything against a guy who sent me a text, although the BF is the only person I’ve ever dated who texted me and we were monogamous from our very first date so it’s not like there was ever anything casual or game-y about it.

My question is, at what point do you stop trying to trick girls into sleeping with you as soon as possible and genuinely assess whether they’re someone you could be with long-term?

]]> By: Benedict M. Smith http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/04/26/twitter-wars-calling-vs-texting/comment-page-1/#comment-205 Benedict M. Smith Mon, 27 Apr 2009 15:38:39 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=186#comment-205 the whole "who's more or less interested" bit has been f'ing up the dating scene for far too long the whole “who’s more or less interested” bit has been f’ing up the dating scene for far too long

]]> By: Hammer http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/04/26/twitter-wars-calling-vs-texting/comment-page-1/#comment-204 Hammer Mon, 27 Apr 2009 00:11:04 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=186#comment-204 I actually know Bobby Rio and Mike Stout in person (as well as Lance from HoneyandLance.com). I went on their TSB Mag trip to the Dominican Republic last August. It was a great time, although I was in a new relationship so I wasn't really interested in straying. I actually know Bobby Rio and Mike Stout in person (as well as Lance from HoneyandLance.com). I went on their TSB Mag trip to the Dominican Republic last August. It was a great time, although I was in a new relationship so I wasn’t really interested in straying.

]]> By: Scot McKay http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/04/26/twitter-wars-calling-vs-texting/comment-page-1/#comment-203 Scot McKay Sun, 26 Apr 2009 21:18:52 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=186#comment-203 Enjoyed the stimulating conversation, Hammer. You write well. The rest of you guys should seriously consider being on Twitter also. Lots of great people to meet, including @bobbyrio from TSB, by the way. And LOTS of sharp, socially-skilled women. LOTS. Cheers, Scot McKay @scotmckay Enjoyed the stimulating conversation, Hammer. You write well.

The rest of you guys should seriously consider being on Twitter also. Lots of great people to meet, including @bobbyrio from TSB, by the way.

And LOTS of sharp, socially-skilled women. LOTS.

Cheers,

Scot McKay
@scotmckay

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