Comments on: Textcalation http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/05/03/textcalation/ We are men in 2010 Mon, 26 Jul 2010 02:30:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Lance http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/05/03/textcalation/comment-page-1/#comment-219 Lance Tue, 16 Jun 2009 05:35:15 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=188#comment-219 @Hammer, I with you on sex for fun and physical, I certainly don't need the intellectual connection to get turned on, but I "get" what Honey's talking about. I've met a couple of chicks (Honey included) that require some braininess to get aroused. IMO, it's a Virgo quality! I get frustrated pretty fast with flaky chicks like your Israeli and not sure I would have lasted that long over text, although I give you props for taking it that long. Did she ever come over? @Hammer, I with you on sex for fun and physical, I certainly don’t need the intellectual connection to get turned on, but I “get” what Honey’s talking about. I’ve met a couple of chicks (Honey included) that require some braininess to get aroused. IMO, it’s a Virgo quality!

I get frustrated pretty fast with flaky chicks like your Israeli and not sure I would have lasted that long over text, although I give you props for taking it that long. Did she ever come over?

]]> By: Hammer http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/05/03/textcalation/comment-page-1/#comment-217 Hammer Fri, 08 May 2009 14:32:20 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=188#comment-217 Yea Sub, those takeaways are huge. You can see that I did that right at the end and it ended up being just what she needed to hear. If you have a vibe that's THIS flirty with a girl in your office, do exactly what I did here: challenge her by saying she's all talk, then do the takeaway. Whatever you do though, don't get frustrated. Brad P calls this the "Slow Track." It means that you have no emotional investment in the situation, but if it works out you'll go through with it. The no emotional investment part can be hard though, your brain can interpret time investment as emotional investment. Yea Sub, those takeaways are huge. You can see that I did that right at the end and it ended up being just what she needed to hear. If you have a vibe that’s THIS flirty with a girl in your office, do exactly what I did here: challenge her by saying she’s all talk, then do the takeaway.

Whatever you do though, don’t get frustrated. Brad P calls this the “Slow Track.” It means that you have no emotional investment in the situation, but if it works out you’ll go through with it. The no emotional investment part can be hard though, your brain can interpret time investment as emotional investment.

]]> By: sub5tance http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/05/03/textcalation/comment-page-1/#comment-218 sub5tance Fri, 08 May 2009 11:27:16 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=188#comment-218 This shows the amount of effort than can be required sometimes. This reminds me of an ongoing flirt vibe I've had going with someone in the office. I've been in the Game long enough to know when someone is attracted to me and she's been playing along with my cocky/funny/sexy vibe but she flaked on me twice (one on a date that *she* suggested and organized) so I just put the ball in her court: 'if you ever get bored and want to hang out then just call me'. She know what this means but I haven't got the energy and intent to do all the chasing. Call it a sticking point - but it takes two to tango IMO This shows the amount of effort than can be required sometimes. This reminds me of an ongoing flirt vibe I’ve had going with someone in the office. I’ve been in the Game long enough to know when someone is attracted to me and she’s been playing along with my cocky/funny/sexy vibe but she flaked on me twice (one on a date that *she* suggested and organized) so I just put the ball in her court: ‘if you ever get bored and want to hang out then just call me’. She know what this means but I haven’t got the energy and intent to do all the chasing.

Call it a sticking point – but it takes two to tango IMO

]]> By: DrSmoothie http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/05/03/textcalation/comment-page-1/#comment-216 DrSmoothie Wed, 06 May 2009 00:04:37 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=188#comment-216 I think the way it read made it seem like you had to put a lot off effort in, when you really didn't. Chicks like this are the worst, I got so annoyed reading it, I slapped my secretary. I think you ever do actually meet up with her, she will have sex, but talk about flaky, Dear Lord. I think the way it read made it seem like you had to put a lot off effort in, when you really didn’t. Chicks like this are the worst, I got so annoyed reading it, I slapped my secretary. I think you ever do actually meet up with her, she will have sex, but talk about flaky, Dear Lord.

]]> By: casualencountersblog http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/05/03/textcalation/comment-page-1/#comment-215 casualencountersblog Tue, 05 May 2009 23:06:09 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=188#comment-215 Blah blah blah, I'm too brainy to fuck. Blah blah blah, I’m too brainy to fuck.

]]> By: Honey http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/05/03/textcalation/comment-page-1/#comment-214 Honey Sun, 03 May 2009 18:56:35 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=188#comment-214 I have had sex with quite a few folks, almost all of it in a casual context (very few boyfriends, TONS of short-term dating and some one night stands as well). However, any time I've had sex with someone I wasn't intellectually attracted to, the sex has been horrible and I've felt disgusted after. It's the intellect that "gets me going" sexually...I could have sex with two different people after the precise same amount of interaction with each, but if I was intellectually attracted to the one guy it's great, and if I wasn't intellectually attracted to the other guy it's horrible. Now that I'm a little older, sex with someone whose STD panel results you don't have just seems too dangerous to risk. I think DD will back me up on it... I have had sex with quite a few folks, almost all of it in a casual context (very few boyfriends, TONS of short-term dating and some one night stands as well).

However, any time I’ve had sex with someone I wasn’t intellectually attracted to, the sex has been horrible and I’ve felt disgusted after. It’s the intellect that “gets me going” sexually…I could have sex with two different people after the precise same amount of interaction with each, but if I was intellectually attracted to the one guy it’s great, and if I wasn’t intellectually attracted to the other guy it’s horrible.

Now that I’m a little older, sex with someone whose STD panel results you don’t have just seems too dangerous to risk. I think DD will back me up on it…

]]> By: Hammer http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/05/03/textcalation/comment-page-1/#comment-213 Hammer Sun, 03 May 2009 18:19:13 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=188#comment-213 @DD One of the beautiful things about texting is that it really only takes minimal effort to use. so while this was strung out over like 72 hours, it never really intruded into my life or took me away from anything. Less maybe 5 or 6 messages that are mostly logistics based, this is the whole interaction. @Honey What does having an intellectual conversation have to do with it? Sex is fun in it's own right. You seem to have a major issue with casual sex that I totally don't understand at all. If you don't care what other people think and enjoy sex I don't see why whether you have an intellectual conversation with someone should matter. @DD One of the beautiful things about texting is that it really only takes minimal effort to use. so while this was strung out over like 72 hours, it never really intruded into my life or took me away from anything. Less maybe 5 or 6 messages that are mostly logistics based, this is the whole interaction.

@Honey What does having an intellectual conversation have to do with it? Sex is fun in it’s own right. You seem to have a major issue with casual sex that I totally don’t understand at all. If you don’t care what other people think and enjoy sex I don’t see why whether you have an intellectual conversation with someone should matter.

]]> By: Honey http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/05/03/textcalation/comment-page-1/#comment-212 Honey Sun, 03 May 2009 15:42:10 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=188#comment-212 Why would you want to sleep with someone you hadn't/couldn't have an intellectual conversation with? Why would you want to sleep with someone you hadn’t/couldn’t have an intellectual conversation with?

]]> By: The Dateable Dork http://www.hammer86blog.com/2009/05/03/textcalation/comment-page-1/#comment-211 The Dateable Dork Sun, 03 May 2009 15:23:43 +0000 http://hammer86blog.com/?p=188#comment-211 This girl sounds like a total flake! Why would you even bother?? This girl sounds like a total flake! Why would you even bother??

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